About Me

Hello, and welcome to The Domestic Pagan ~ Life In The Lair.  I’m Kena and this is my blog.

Let me tell you a little about myself and introduce some of the people you’ll see around here.

Kena ~ 2016

So that’s me last year (2016) at 41.  I’ve been married to my best friend for 20 years.  I’m a wife, a mom, a GiGi, an aunt, blogger, Domestic Pagan, and gamer.

I remember being asked as a child, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”.  My friends all wanted to be ballerinas, cowboys, astronauts, doctors, and lawyers.  All I ever wanted to be was a wife and a mom.

I was raised by a BO (Born Organized) woman who was very OCD, especially when it came to cleaning.  I remember when I was about four years old, I found her in the kitchen, on her hands and knees, in six-inch heels and a skirt, toothbrush in hand and scrubbing the corners of the kitchen floor.

When I was young, I struggled with being domestic because of the perfectionist attitude towards cleaning I learned from my mother.  My house was rarely so dirty is was “disgusting”, but things like dusting and deep cleaning rarely happened.

I got my wish a lot sooner than I expected and struggled with the burden of it for several years before I finally started figuring out what I was doing when I became a mom at 17 and a wife two weeks after my 18th birthday.

Just over two years ago, DH (Dear Husband) and I were involved in a very serious accident.  The accident left me in the hospital for nearly a month and forced me to endure several months of rehab after.  It nearly killed me and left me permanently disabled.  Needless to say, a lot has changed since then.  The doctors said there was a better than good chance that I’d never be able to walk, and if I did somehow manage to walk, that I wouldn’t be able to walk well.

I managed to walk for a year and a half before the pain in my back and pelvis became too much to bear and I went back into a wheelchair in August of 2017.


TimberLeaves ~ My sister-of-the-heart

In my mid-twenties, my sister-of-the-heart, TimberLeaves, introduced me to The FlyLady and it changed my life and helped to make me the woman I am today.

Draco ~ 2012

That’s my hubby, Draco.  It’s an older picture of him, but still one of my favorites.  He’s a Shift Lead at a restaurant in the small town we live in.

Mini-Me & The Pain ~ 2017

That’s our daughter, Mini-Me and her husband, The Pain, on their wedding day.

Squishy ~ 2017

Our granddaughter, Squishy.  She’s currently 3 and the light of mine and her Popie’s life.

Chicklet ~ 2017

Chicklet is part of our extended family and our relationship is complex.  A little bit best friend, a little bit niece and a little bit daughter.  Sometimes referred to as our “oldest”, but calls us Aunt and Uncle.

That’s the people I call my “Tribe”.  They are my family and my world.  They are the reason that I am who I am and that I do what I do.

You’ll hear more about all of them as the blog fills out.

It’s my hope to make this space my “home on the web”.  I want to share the things I’m passionate about with all of you, from stories about me and my family to recipes, cleaning tips and more.


(c) The Domestic Pagan 2017